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If Mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy

Lissu Moulton
Blogit Kirjeitä äidille 18.2.2014 13:16

Dear Lissu,
Ah yes – gender equality.  Here in the U.S., the 19th Amendment to the Constitution gave us – women, that is –  the right to vote.  As I remember, that was 1920.  So, we voted and were perfectly happy.  And then, all of a sudden in the 1970’s, we got ”women’s liberation”.  We could burn our bras.  We could open our own doors.  We could stand on the subway.  I remember that we were so liberated that one time I went for my annual check-up to the gynecologist, and he asked if I wanted to see my cervix.  Well, actually, I had never seen my liver or my gallbladder, and mostly I just wanted to get up and get dressed – so I passed up that liberating moment.  (I would like to see just one doctor ask just one man if he wants to see his prostate!)

But I think one of the most important things we got was the ability to say:  ”You know what?  I have a brain and as much as I love my children, I need to get out of the house for a few hours.  My kids are gorgeous, gifted and talented.   However, I cannot talk to them about stock options, or pharmaceutical labels, or advertising copy.  And if I can talk to another adult about those things for a few hours, I can go home and get excited about Richard Scarry books and baking 100 birthday cupcakes.”

Personally, I think it’s easier to go back to work sooner rather than later.  It’s like getting out of bed in the morning – just do it otherwise you’ll still be in it at noon.  What the hell, you know the old saying:  ”If Mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.”  Oh, and one other thing – your kids should sleep in their own bed.  The only small thing that should sleep in your bed is the dog – or cat if you’re one of ”those people”.  Kids don’t have enough fur on them to keep your feet warm in this cold weather.

Love,
Mom

Lissu Moulton

Kirjoittaja on New Yorkissa varttunut ja Helsingissä naisistunut copywriter.

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