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Dear Mom,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, my 3-year-old came home from nursery school and started telling me about her day. \u201cWe had spaghetti and meat sauce for lunch.\u201d Great, sounds delicious. \u201cThen I played store and Spiderman with my best friends.\u201d Wow, Spiderman is so cool. \u201cAnd then after that Black braided my hair.\u201d Um… WHO?!?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Maybe there\u2019s a new kid at nursery school named Blanca or Jack? Or maybe I just heard her wrong. Maybe. But I was pretty sure that the most likely scenario is that \u201cBlack\u201d is the dark-skinned woman interning at their nursery school. Oh God…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So the next morning I pulled one of the teachers aside and went into a whole like 5-minute-long monologue about how depressing it is that a 3-year-old is already using skin color to label and that I couldn\u2019t understand where she\u2019d gotten it from since we\u2019d never even talked about race and I certainly don\u2019t highlight the color of someone\u2019s skin when referring to them or anything like that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And maybe that\u2019s the problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It would be nice to think that little kids don\u2019t even notice things like race, gender and weight. But the truth is they do<\/a>. And Black got me thinking that not talking about race is probably one of the least effective ways to teach kids not to care about race<\/a>. Kind of like how not talking to teenagers about sex is the world\u2019s worst form of birth control.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It turns out that Black is actually a white teacher at her nursery school. I tried asking Lexi why she calls her that. She said she\u2019s not sure. Ok, let\u2019s try a different question.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My best friend is a woman who is married to another woman. Well, ok, technically they\u2019re in a \u201cregistered partnership\u201d because of the stupid law blocking same-sex marriage. But just like some people choose not to recognise their relationship, I choose not to recognise that stupid law, so to me they\u2019re married, period.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anyway, I asked Lexi if she\u2019s ever noticed that their kids have two mommies instead of one isi and one mommy. She said she hadn\u2019t noticed but that they could probably go to Stockmann to buy an isi if they wanted to. It makes sense. I mean, there is a saying here that if they don\u2019t have it at Stockmann, you don\u2019t need it. …At least that\u2019s what people said before the Internet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I really believe color and gender are no big deal to kids Lexi\u2019s age. But when you grow up seeing and talking about diversity, it normalizes it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After we talked about her friends\u2019 two mommies I tried asking her again why she calls her teacher Black. She gave me the stink eye and said she was too busy watching her iPad to talk to me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Can\u2019t wait for all those birth control conversations…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Love,\nLissu<\/p>\n\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Dear Mom, So, my 3-year-old came home from nursery school and started telling me about her day. \u201cWe had spaghetti and meat sauce for lunch.\u201d Great, sounds delicious. \u201cThen I played store and Spiderman with my best friends.\u201d Wow, Spiderman is so cool. \u201cAnd then after that Black braided my hair.\u201d
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